ATTN: Landowners

Turn Key Home Buying & Land Improvement Packages!!

Your land or your family’s land. 866-597-2083

The Dessie Scott Children’s Home Campus in Pine Ridge is looking for dedicated and caring individuals to supervise and nurture children in a beautiful campus atmosphere. If you have the desire and ability to form trusting, supportive relationships with children in need, we have the opportunity to offer you a rewarding career in professional child care.

If you feel you possess these qualities in addition to a high school

diploma or GED, you can have a dramatic impact on the lives of children.

To apply for a position, send a letter of application to:

Buckhorn Children & Family Services

Attn: Michelle Watkins

PO Box 717

Campton, KY  41301

(606) 668-6445 phone

(606) 668-6008 fax

EQUAL OPPORTUNITY EMPLOYER

April 30 & May 1

Rain or Shine

8:00 a.m.-5:00 p.m.

Bedroom, Living Room, and Dining Room Suites; Radio-Stereo Combos; Microwaves; Doors; Bathroom Fixtures; Clothes; Whatnots; & Various Other Items.

At the last Buck Herald Reunion, a committee was appointed to oversee and maintain the Buck Herald Cemetery. Reuben Turner, Jr. was appointed the chairman. The members and their telephone numbers are as follows:

Burton Herald, Jr.-        666-7453

Elliot Herald-                666-9581

Grannis Herald-            295- 2681

Ray Herald-                   295-2426

Reuben Turner, Jr.-        295-5847

In order to maintain the cemetery where so many of our loved ones, friends, and neighbors are resting, considerable expenses will be required. If there is anyone who would like to make a donation for this, please give it to any one of the committee members or if you would like to send a check for this, mail it to the following address:

Buck Herald Cemetery Fund

Attn: Burton Herald

214 Howell Heights

Jackson, KY  41339

All donations will be used for the sole purpose of maintaining our cemetery.

Thank you,

Buck Herald Cemetery Committee

But living in Eastern KY, you might start to doubt there was family out there who didn’t live this way.  You might even think that this is the WAY of Life and my loved one will never change.  Countless times we have had our hearts broken, been manipulated {Again, and again, and again…}, and have tried tirelessly to change someone who Refuses to change or get help.  Time after time we question why. Why? Why won’t they change? Why do the treat me this way?  Why don’t they just straighten up?

Bottom Line – Why should they?

We are so focused on changing them…our family.  Naturally.  They hurt us and their selves.  However, trying to change someone is like banging your head against the wall trying to make a door. It’s not going to happen.  Believe me, I have lived my whole life this way until about year or so ago! It’s up to you to change. Change how you react and change your behavior. How? STOP!!!

• Stop the nagging and threatening
• Stop giving money and any other material things
• Stop saving them and rescuing them
• Start saying no and setting boundaries
• Take care of you and what is important to you
• PUT God first and not the individual

There can be Peace and you deserve it. It seems impossible….scary….and pointless…and almost selfish.  Yet change has to happen before the peace can happen.  Change can start very, very, small by telling yourself each day you are lovable and deserve happiness. Don’t beat yourself up for giving in or feeling like a failure. Change takes time. Loving and taking care of you BEFORE trying to take care of your family – especially the chaotic one – sounds so selfish and against what we were taught.  Guess what? Have you thought about the person you are rescuing and the selfish lifestyle they are living? Not enabling the addict can save their life.

Of course, I could write an entire book on rescuing, trying to change someone, and tough love.  Thankfully I don’t have to and am still learning myself.  Did you know there are support groups that deal just with the families of addicts or who grew up in addictive homes? It’s called Alanon. It’s free, safe, and confidential for people to vent, scream, cry, laugh, and support each other when you feel you’re in this situation alone.  I started attending in ’08 and was surprised that other people were nuts just like me! Wow!

I hope and pray for you and your family through these challenges.  Change can happen in Eastern KY or any home but it takes someone to change.  Check out a local meeting sometime — there are a few close by.  See the Alanon (http://www.kyal-anon.org/alalist.html) website for more info.

INSANITY = Doing the same thing over and over and over YET EXPECTING a different result!!

Help Wanted